Life Counseling

Back on track

I recently had the occasion to receive counseling from Anita Warren. I was not doing so well in life. Anita rolled up her sleeves and got busy. Well, needless to say this counseling did the job, as I am back on my feet and winning at life. One of my biggest realizations was on the ‘succumb factors’ of life. I now realize there are games and then there are GAMES and that I had better watch which ones I play. I also realize that I need to continue getting the training I started out to get twenty years ago but kept falling off the path. When I told Anita I needed more knowledge about making decisions regarding the future she made sure I got a copy of the perfect book on this subject. Thank you for getting my life back on track. — EL

Life Counseling Success Story

I came here with a question, and the answer–no matter what it was–would change my life indefinitely. I was uncomfortable in my own body: it was female, and I just had to be male. I was a straight woman, but felt deep down that I was a gay man. I decided, with the help of my parents, to get Life Counseling before I did anything drastic (taking hormones and getting SRS: Sexual Reassignment Surgery). I didn’t need my parents to push me into getting help. In all truth, I was on the fence–the worst place to be. I had three choices: begin the transition, continue pretending to be female, or destroy myself. I would feel grief when I knew I shouldn’t, and seeing pictures of handsome guys only turned up the volume on the feeling. When I wore girls clothes it was more like for show: I usually dressed up as a girl for Halloween (the scariest thing I could become). The only time I seriously considered dressing as a girl was the time when I put on a dress and was reduced to be a pile of teary, depressed muck on my bedroom floor. I didn’t leave my room until I was in “suitable” men’s clothes. The only girl I could be was a cross dressing man. I watched “The Secret” and asked the universe, with every fiber of my being, to make this uninhabitable body male somehow. It worked in a way–after that decision I came across a LOT of information on FTM (female to male) transitioning. I remember finding a transman online who had gone through his transition and I would cry just looking at his pictures (it was hard to believe he was ever female–all traces of his femininity were washed away by hormone therapy and “top surgery” and he looked amazing). I looked up “transman” and “FTM,” eventually finding Hudson’s FTM Guide. Whenever I talked about it to friends, I would get excited. It seemed like I had hope. I knew I was a girl, but I also knew that I would grow up to be a man–it was the only thing that made sense at the time. When I looked in the mirror, I saw a boy. When I thought about myself, I was a boy. I felt the irresistible urge to correct people when they called me by feminine pronouns (she/her), and I often did. Most of my friends got used to it, often referring to me as “he.” My best friend was in medical school and told me she would help me give myself testosterone (via bimonthly intramuscular injection). People who knew me called me by “he/his” and most strangers simply guessed or avoided using either pronoun. I masculinized my name was determined to change it legally. I wore an Ace bandage around my chest, and cut my hair short. I wore only men’s clothes. Still, I had the feeling that maybe–just MAYBE–I would realize something during my Life Counseling and I would change my mind. And that’s precisely what happened. Life Counseling was originally proposed by my parents, but I had no objections whatsoever. And so began my journey to find myself. I traveled across the country by plane to see my counselor. What I sought became known as my answer.  I went from San Francisco to Tampa. I became set on deciding for myself which path I would go down, narrowing my options down to two: become a man or a woman. I jumped straight into sessions with Les, my Life Counselor. It was a truly mind-blowing, life changing, incredible experience that wrenched my answer right up from the depths of my mind. In the end, I found the source of my problem was a past life incident! It seems so silly afterwards. I felt the weight lift from my shoulders, and finally I could breathe (removing the Ace bandage helped with this too). The depressing grief I used to feel left and didn’t come back. Les, Anita, and even the other clients around here were so, so, so supportive. Anita took me shopping (for the real test), and when I tried on girls clothes… voila! No pain, no grief. The sky wasn’t falling, and the walls were still solid. I didn’t grow antennae or an extra set of arms. I was right there, admiring my female body in clothes that actually fit. For the next few days, I only wore girls clothes, and not only was I fine with it, I actually enjoyed it. I texted my friend in medical school and carefully told her I wasn’t going to transition. The message she sent back to me was: “As long as you feel better about yourself that’s all that matters to me.” I also broke the news to my online pen pal and best friend (who knows me only as a gay man), and she accepted me as I truly am, much better than I expected. She’s still my super awesome best friend for life! I haven’t told many other people, but I’m expecting the worst and hoping for the best. I know now that it’s not anyone’s decision but mine. – RS

Life Counseling and Body Detox

All of a sudden today I felt so amazing. Last night I completed my Life Counseling write-up and felt really good after writing it with also a big sense of relief/weight off my shoulders. At first I didn’t want to do it, but when I was done it was so cleansing.  I even slept so good last night for the first time in a long time!  When I started the sauna today, I had all these ideas flowing and felt really excited and positive about the future. I know that it’s not going to be easy, but I can’t give up on what I want, I just have to work harder to get there! I feel so confident and 100% ready to take on any challenge I am faced with and will not let “The Enemy” (in my mind), get in the way anymore. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Phillipians 4:13)  HC

 

Life Counseling Success

Anita helped me look back on things in my life that made me look at why I was not whole. It was important for me to look at my past so I could let out old “no good energy” (anger) and replace it with healthy good energy. I look forward to my future filled with peace. I could not say this with the “old me.” Now I feel great with the NEW ME. Thank you, Anita. MK

 

Fear of Driving

I went into session last Saturday. We ran two similar incidents. I really feel terrific and no longer afraid of driving on the highway. The fear I had was actually paralyzing. I would begin sweating, shaking, and feeling nauseous. I could not even maintain my foot on the gas pedal for more than a couple of seconds and I felt the need to drive much slower than normal. I have just been enjoying this win of no longer feeling afraid. I plan to take a long drive soon. – B

 

Key incident

I had several hours of counseling yesterday. It was incredible! I realized that there was a key incident with my mother which made me withhold certain abilities in my art all my life long. I suddenly felt I could just go to it and paint and draw in a certain way that I had always been thinking about but never was able to do. At one point I felt like a butterfly that had lived in a small box and suddenly it could stretch out it’s wings. I came home last night and had so much energy unknown to me before. I feel very grateful! — CM

Artist’s tools

Today was one of the most amazing days of my life. I am an artist but for 20 years I have not been able to paint even though I have the equipment, tools, tubes of paint — following me around from place to place, getting more and more brittle as the years pass. This afternoon I had my session! At first I was very anxious but soon I was handling my artist’s tools easily. Anita granted me so much freedom to do whatever I needed to do. Her interest carried me like a wave through all the reactions I had and safely brought me to solid ground — free of whatever emotions and confusions stood in the way of my creativity. I feel so relieved, rehabilitated and happy. It’s such a relief to get back this very important part of myself! I thank you from the bottom of my heart! — AA

Afraid of life

I came here afraid of life. Never had a relationship, really, for I can’t count how many years. Now my head is clean. Now I AM, I am ALIVE, I have no regrets. I could not be more pleased with the results from the Life Counseling. You have all gone way out of your way for me. I appreciate that. I appreciate Anita the most.  She is a lovely person. Thank you all. — MW

Skeptical

When I first decided to do the Life Counseling I was VERY skeptical. I couldn’t believe that there was an answer to my problem. I had reached a point in my life where I just didn’t care. I HAD to do something right away. I had read several testimonials and read some books on the subject and decided to give this counseling a chance. At first I asked myself, ‘what have I gotten myself into?’ Now that I’ve completed the life counseling I am writing in disbelief. I cannot express in words how my outlook on life has changed. We don’t have much time to get busy living and, I can say with a lump in my throat, that I am going to get busy living TODAY!! Thank you for my new life. — MS

New realizations

One of many realizations that I experienced in Life Counseling was in the area of my career. Before my counseling sessions I was struggling to figure out what was my purpose in life and how could I be happy in general. I felt lost and confused with no direction. As I began my sessions and learned more about who I am and the different areas of my life, an incredible feeling began to come over me. A feeling of greater or higher understanding about life, people, society, spirits and how they all play off of one-another. My doubts and feelings of uncertainty that held me back like shackles are gone and I now have boundless possibilities before me. Even as I write this success story, my mind continues to make new realizations and things that would have passed me by in the past are truly brought to light. This is LIVING life. — BP