From ADHD to Amazed

Background:  10 year old CA (initials) was going to a school for “gifted children” but wasn’t happy there.  He was labeled ADHD.  The parents refused to put him on the recommended drugs.  The school counselor was constantly pointing out CA’s faults and giving him lots of advice as to what he should do about it.  CA was being given large amounts of homework daily.  He would get very upset and “act up” while doing his homework.  This was stressful on the family.  The parents found out about what we do here at the Life Integrity Center.  The dad flew here with CA to take advantage of our program.  Over a 3 day period I spent 6 hours 20 minutes of session time with CA.  At the end of the sessions, I asked him to tell me “what he got out of it.”  Here is what he thoughtfully said as I dictated word for word:  “I liked it because it was mostly fun to do.  At some points you helped me find myself–myself that got lost inside the little unhappy lies that were inside my head that you helped get rid of most of them.  It got even better with the tasty muffins that you made.”
 Here is what the mom said, after he got home:  Our son looks great!  It is so good to have him home and so happy!  I can certainly see a difference in him.  I am thrilled with his gains and I love his ‘testimonial.’  I did hear a lot about the muffins, too.  Thank you for want you do!”
 After the first day back at school, mom said:  “CA had a great day at school today.  His teacher gives him daily marks as to how he does in different areas.  He got all good marks today.  During homework tonight, where he usually ‘acts up big time,’ he did all of it with no ‘acting up.’  He was being a ‘solver,’ which I have never seen him do.  We are sort of in ‘pleasant shock.'”
 A few days later, Dad says:  “I asked CA if he wants to go back for more sessions and he was very excited about it.  He really seems to be more stable and more interested in life.  His communications have been more emphatic and clear.  His manners have even gotten better.  I guess he seems more sure of himself.  Right now, the ‘acting up’ is limited to his homework.  I believe that is just a habit pattern which my wife and I now have the ability to stop.”
 Update from Dad:  “Our son got his third straight day of perfect marks.  This has never happened before.  He has completely stopped getting upset during homework.  My wife and I have been reading the book you recommended, applying it, and it is working.  She read the part about allowing kids to contribute.  She let our son bake muffins and pass them out to everyone.  I asked him yesterday if he wants to come down again for more sessions.  He said, ‘Yes.’  His sister wants to come, too.  CA’s teacher said she noticed a remarkable change in him.  She said he has been much better and believes he is on the right track.  This is the same teacher who wanted him out of the program.  She said he does not ‘melt down’ anymore.  When he starts to struggle he catches himself and works through it now.  I am amazed.”

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